Soothing the Abandonment Wound

• Remember when you are feeling desperate to convince someone to love you, that it is your wound talking, and your inner-child is really asking YOU for love.
• Return to your breath again and again, and remember that you are safe, and that even if it might feel like your world is falling apart, you're going to be ok.
• Remember that when you feel panic or anxiety coming on, that it's not about them, this is about you and your own healing - call a friend, pick up a book, listen to music, breathe - you are safe.
• Write your inner-child a letter and comfort them. Validate all of their fears and their feelings, and tell them that you're going to take good care of them.
• Read this letter anytime you're feeling triggered or scared.
• Set up an agreement with a safe friend or a coach who you can text when you're triggered instead of texting your ex (even if you just send the text to someone safe without needing a response, this helps you get it out, while not engaging you ex any further).
• Create a self-care routing that you can rely on like a morning walk, a meditation, and a journaling exercise.
• Spend time exploring your wound - what's underneath it? Your tender inner-child is asking for your attention.
• Spend time doing things to nurture your mental health and spiritual growth.
• Work with a therapist, coach or spiritual guide who can support you when you really need a loving space held for you.
• Remember that what you are feeling is normal - you are not crazy, and you will get through this.